Author - Sarah G

There is probably nothing more exciting than sex. Sure, there are supposedly desserts that are “better than sex”, but whoever is saying that has had some crummy sex in their lives. Truthfully, sex, and specifically having an orgasm is one of life’s greatest joys.

So, what happens when your orgasms aren’t cooperating, or you just don’t have the stamina in bed to prolong the good times? Nobody wants to be “that guy”, who finishes too quickly and becomes known as a “two-pump chump.” Luckily, you don’t need to feel badly if that’s something that happens to you because it happens to most guys at some point in their lives.

Whether it be stress, a medical issue, you’re just too excited, whatever, one out of every three men will have trouble with not lasting as long as they like in the bedroom.

The biggest question from guys is always, “How can I last longer before having an orgasm?” And if you’re one of those guys, here are the tips that will not only help you increase your confidence, but also to help you last longer in bed.

Average Ejaculation Time

In a study done by the Journal of Sexual Medicine, it was found that the average time for ejaculation, that is the time between vaginal penetration and the act of ejaculation was an average of 5.4 minutes.

However, this isn’t really the norm; in a recent book on adult sex education found that most men reportedly finish within two minutes. For someone that has premature ejaculation, this time is a minute and under, no matter how hard you try to control yourself.

Even if you don’t have a premature ejaculation diagnosis proper, almost every guy would like to be able to extend his orgasms. If you’re looking for ways to last longer in bed, here are the best ways to do that:

Tips To Make Yourself Last Longer (Slow Your Orgasm)

I want to preface this section with all the legal mumbo-jumbo we’re supposed to include. If you’re having any issues with your orgasms, private parts, or any other health-related issue, you need to see a doctor. Yes, it’s going to be awkward, but you’re a grownup and you can do it.

I’m not going to scare you, but if you’re having issues with the private parts, you could have other issues going on and it’s always better to be safe than sorry in the long run. So, once you’ve got that medical checkup and things are ok in that area, you can then focus on these methods to last longer in bed.

#1: Kegels

Wait, aren’t those the things that women are supposed to do after they’ve had kids so they stop wetting themselves when they pick things up and to make it feel like less their man is throwing a hot dog down a hallway when they have sex?

Yep, just like women, men have pelvic floor muscles known as pubococcygeal (PC) muscles. You can find them by taking a pee, stopping the flow of the urine, and starting again. Those are the muscles.

To strengthen those muscles, it is recommended that you stand in the mirror naked and try to lift your testicles up or shorten your penis without using your hands.

It will be all muscle work and you’ll do this for 10-second increments for 10 rounds. Once you’ve seen how it works in the mirror, you can literally do this anywhere (with your damn pants on, please).

Research has shown that between 60 – 75% of men who have trouble prolonging their orgasms improved their rate strictly by practicing Kegels on a regular basis.

#2: Limit How Much You’re Thrusting

Let’s face it, if you’re thrusting like a wild rabbit, you’re getting yourself and your “good buddy” wound up for the final act. I know it feels good, but the more you thrust, the quicker you’re going to orgasm.

To last longer, use your penis to tease her clitoris, have her play with your penis, and do as minimal thrusting as you can until you’re ready. Heck, this might even make her squirt if you do it correctly.

#3: Try Out Edging

If you’re a guy, you’re going to masturbate. (Don’t lie and say you don’t) This is a great time to practice something known as edging.

Edging is getting yourself right to the point of an orgasm through manual stimulation, then backing off completely until you’ve got yourself back under control. Kind of seems like its defeating the purpose of a wank session, right?

But, according to sex therapists, edging helps your brain to get control of the orgasm response and allows you to last longer.

Oh, and speaking of masturbation, doctors at the Mayo Clinic recommend masturbation an hour or two prior to sex with a partner to help delay orgasming.

This works especially well if you haven’t had an orgasm in a while, which puts you more at risk for shooting off quickly. Masturbation should help you delay that climax, which is definitely a good thing.

Just be careful. If you try to do a rub-off too soon before a real sexual encounter, you might not be able to perform at all, so time it appropriately for your body.

#4: Let Her Finish First

We always hear “nice guys finish last” and in the bedroom, that might help you to last longer as well. Many good guys get very worked up if their partner doesn’t orgasm, putting even more pressure on themselves. Talk to your partner, find out what works for her, DO THOSE THINGS, and focus less on yourself.

Once she’s finished and feeling amazing, then it’s your turn.

#5: Use Condoms

Unless you’re in a monogamous relationship, you should be using condoms anyway. But, I won’t get on my soapbox other than to say, stay safe out there.

Now, most guys don’t like rubbers because, well, they suck. They feel different, you’re stopping what you’re doing to slip it on, they can break, yadda yadda yadda.

Here’s the good thing about them, besides the preventing sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancies: if you choose a brand that is a little thicker, it helps to desensitize the feelings you’ll get and could help you prolong the time until you orgasm, thus helping you to last longer.

#6: Try Some Alternative Things

Now, the things I’m about to recommend are for those of you that are really struggling with lasting longer in bed. Of course, legal stuff here, contact your doctor first and make sure they are an OK option for you and your body, so things don’t go awry.

The first option is using anesthetic wipes. Companies like Roman offer up these wipes that have a bit of benzocaine in them, which will numb things down there, delaying the sensations necessary for an orgasm.

There are also sprays, topicals, and condoms that do the same things, but they can also cause your partner to be numbed as well. If you plan on using anything like that, make sure your partner has no allergies and is on board with trying out numbing agents first.

Another option is using technology. The FDA has approved something called Prolong, a device that helps you practice delaying ejaculation by jerking off into a $300 gadget over a period of six weeks.

There are also apps that help train you over a period of time to last longer and these may be something you want to try before spending the big bucks on an artificial vagina.

Finally, there is also the options of using medications, however, this is typically reserved for those with legit PE and are considered a last resort. Please, do not order pills from some unknown source online. There is no guarantee they are safe, and you have no idea where they’re coming from. Be safe!

Conclusion: To Last Longer, You’ve Got to Practice

It can be super stressful to come too quickly in bed. Every guy wants to last longer and when you can’t, you think something is wrong with you. Trust me, there is not a thing wrong with you if you shoot off too soon.

The good news is that most cases of coming too quickly can be worked on and fixed with a little practice. If you give these six tips a try, you’re sure to last longer and have the satisfying sex you are craving.

If you’ve spent any time on the internet at all, you’ve stumbled across the specialized discussion boards known as Reddit. Reddit started in 2005 and it’s a place where registered users can submit content such as links, images, and text which is then voted on by other members. You can find just about anything on Reddit, and posts are organized by subject into “sub-Reddits” with topics from current events to science to movies to fitness to, yep, you guessed it, sex. Today, I’m covering EVERYTHING you need to know about using Reddit in order to grow your brand as a cam model.

Official Reddit Guide For Cam Models

Reddit has over 330 million active monthly members, which means there are a lot of eyes looking at whatever is posted on the seventh most-visited site on the internet worldwide. If you’re a cam girl, that means you could actually use a site like Reddit to your advantage.

Maybe you’re saying, “But, how?” Well, let me first tell you that on Reddit, like just about everywhere else, sex is big. There are dozens of subreddits dedicated to sex and sexual topics, including r/CamSluts, a subreddit dedicated to cam girls, webcam girls, and amateurs who want to show off what they can do on video.

With 64% of Reddit users in the age demographics of 18-24 and over 40 million searches done daily on Reddit, your chances of exposure are pretty damn good, especially when you’re in a career that requires your name be “out there” like cam work does. If you’re a cam girl, here is how you can use Reddit to your advantage by becoming a Reddit cam girl.

The Cam Girl Community on Reddit

Cam work is competitive, especially now that the waters are so full of women (and men) who want to try their hands at making some bank online. What is great about the camming subreddits is that there are always people there that have done what you’re looking to do, have experience in all avenues of cam work, and are more than willing to be helpful when you’ve got any questions.

As much as you talk to people online as a cam worker, you’re pretty much in a career where you’re alone. There are no business meetings, no constructive criticism from bosses, and no real organization that you are working with. Plus, many people still stupidly look down on sex work of any type and sorry to say it, but cam work is considered sex work.

That’s a great reason to give the subreddits a try. You can connect with other cam workers and feel less alone and not at all judged like your friends may have a tendency to do. I know that has been one of the biggest benefits of Reddit for myself as a cam worker.

Getting Your Name Out There

Another positive of Reddit for cam workers is that you can post links to your work. As a cam girl, you’re probably using a site like Chaturbate or Cam Soda for work. Those are great sites, but you rely on users of those sites to see you and get interested in you.

If you’re new to camming, this can take some time. And in the cam world, time equals money. Reddit, with allowing you to post links to your videos, allows you to show what you do to people who may not be members of those sites yet.

This means more exposure and hopefully more paying customers who want to see more of what you do. The more interest you can get, the better!

The added bonus of becoming a Reddit cam girl is that they allow couples posts if you’re into that, and hardcore content is welcome. The site and the subreddits are moderated but don’t let that scare you, it is mostly to ensure that things run smoothly and there is no bullying going on and that everyone involved is of legal age.

Oh, and if those that watch your videos are really turned on, they can award you with coins. Now, as of today, they aren’t real currency, but instead something that will be used for stuff that Reddit will have. But, hey, you never know what those things will be and if they might end up being real money in the future.

Being An Adult Services Seller On Reddit

If you decide that you want to do more than just share your video links to other cam sites, you may want to consider being an adult services seller on Reddit.

This can be something you decide to do if you want to leave those other sites, or in addition to your cam work. However, you decide to use it, selling adult services on Reddit is great for cam girls.

Now, here is a little warning for you before you decide to post anything sexual on Reddit: If you’re looking to remain completely anonymous, Reddit isn’t going to be for you.

If you still want to use Reddit for your cam work, you should definitely not post in subreddits from your city or anything local; posts are completely public, and you could absolutely be traceable.

If you’re OK with all of this and still want to use Reddit for your cam business, you will want to familiarize yourself with the adult services selling subreddits that are available. You will more than likely have to become a verified user, which means posting a bit of free content on Reddit, but its more than worth it in the end.

The trick to this is to post pics or gifs of yourself on subreddits that fit with what you’re about. If you’re a girl with huge boobs, find subreddits for that. Or, if you’re a geeky girl, look for those subreddits. There are literally kinks and niches for everyone on Reddit.

Oh, and don’t try to charge for this content. Don’t mention prices, and don’t mention you’re a seller in these non-selling subreddits. Only when a member contacts you about your free content would it be wise to let them know you’ll chat…for a fee.

Many of these users won’t take the bait and they aren’t going to pay you. Don’t let that get you down, though. All of this just works towards getting your account verified, which means you can move to the adult services selling subreddits.

Once you’re at that stage, really read the rules for whatever subreddit you’re looking at joining. Each subreddit has its own rules and there is no excuse for being declined or booted because you didn’t follow the rules.

If you’re serious and want to make money on Reddit as a cam girl, you have to follow their rules, otherwise, you’ll be banned, which sucks.

Make Your Own Subreddit

As your popularity increases and you’ve used Reddit for a bit, you have the option of creating a subreddit dedicated completely to you.

This is your Wiki and you should include everything about you as a cam worker for your fans and paying customers, including your cam sites, your kinks and interests, how to pay you for content, what you might sell besides shows, and anything else that has to do with your cam work.

Remember, though, this will take time. Using Reddit requires a little advance work and planning, you can’t just jump on and become a Reddit cam girl star within minutes.

Final Thoughts: Using Reddit To Become A Successful Cam Girl Takes Work

Reddit is a great place to grow your cam career and make some extra money, especially if you are using the right subreddits. Unfortunately, it can’t be done instantaneously, but instead requires you to do some work with understanding the rules of Reddit and following them over a period of time.

However, once you’ve done that, Reddit, with its huge membership base, gets you out there and helps you to grow your cam girl business like no other way.

Cam girls are some of the most widely watched women across the world. Me and my friends are watched by millions of people daily – literally. There’s just something more exciting when you can log on to a show and see a legit, real woman and not just spend your time wanking it too boring, old porno clips on Pornhub. Don’t get me wrong, porn is great and fills in a need, but a living, breathing woman who is doing things you’re craving to see is even better. Actually, it’s ten times better.

If you’re a fan of cam shows and you have cam models you enjoy, you’re probably wondering how you can be the best cam girl fanboy you can be. I mean, each model has her own favorites and the better a customer you are, the more attention you’re going to get. And, isn’t that why you watch cam shows anyway?

If you want to be the best fanboy that you can be, there are definitely some things you can do to make yourself the “A+, shining star” of fanboys. Presented here for all of you fans of cam girls are the rules of how to be the best fanboy possible.

Before diving into this, let’s cover the basics. What is a fanboy? A fanboy is someone who is an extreme fan or more of a fan than most people out there. Simple as that and fanboys get more love.

Rules Every Fanboy Must Follow

These rules I’m going to share with you aren’t set in stone. Each cam girl is going to be unique in what she likes and doesn’t like, and you’ll have to do a little research into what your particular muse is into when you take your conversations private.

However, I can guarantee that if you follow these fanboy rules, you’re going to be her best customer, especially when most guys won’t even think to do these things. Trust me, these rules apply whether you’re using Jerkmate, Streamate any other webcam site.

Make Polite Conversation.

Look, we all know why guys like cam girls. It’s to see some booty, see some touching, and most likely to get “off” on their side. But, remember, fanboys, these women are still human beings.

Yes, you’re going to get your show, but if you’re polite and can have discussions about things other than strictly having sex, you’re going to endear yourself more to your cam girl.

Another reason to talk with your cam girl about other things is that it helps her to remember that you’re just a regular guy, too. Sure, this is a paid sexual transaction, but just like she’s a human being, so are you.

It’s a sad fact, but many guys are attracted to cam girls for things other than sex, like chit-chat and friendship. It may not be a friendship in the traditional sense of the word, but it is always nice to have someone to talk to when you don’t have that elsewhere.

The more you talk (politely), the more you both get to know each other and that can really go a long way.

Send Her Some Gifts.

Most, if not all, cam girls have a wish list that they keep on Amazon. They will usually add things of all price ranges, from cheap to super expensive, so you’re bound to find something that you can afford.

Cam girls will prioritize a fanboy if he is more generous, this is her career, after all. So, if you can swing it, find her wish list and take a gander.

Start small (unless you want to go crazy, then by all means, have at it) and just watch how fast you start to become a very important fanboy.

Don’t Try to Push Her into Your Script.

Remember how I said your favorite cam girls are actually human? This applies here as well. If you’re in a private show and you think it has to go exactly the way you want it to, you’re going to be sorely disappointed.

Live shows are just that, live. Things will happen that you didn’t think of, she may not be comfortable with your requests, or technology may fail. Stuff happens!

If you’re into something really kinky or different, talk with your cam model about it. If she’s into it and willing to indulge you, great. If not, and it’s going to push you into being abusive or leaving bad reviews, you need to be mature, accept that she isn’t the right one for your interests, and go about finding the one who is.

Don’t Ask Her Out.

This one is tricky because the lines can be blurred between fantasy and emotions. Many fanboys are A-OK with remembering that cam girls are a fantasy and something fun. But, some guys get a touch confused on this and want to take out their cam models on dates.

My best advice about this is: Don’t ever ask out your cam model. She is never going to say yes. She doesn’t want to date you.

That may sound mean, but trust me, as much as you want to think you’re going to woo her and win her over, you’re not. It never happens like that in the camming world.

Don’t Ask Her to Do Things She’s Already Said No To.

Again, this goes back to the mental script rule, but I think it really bears repeating because it is very common for fanboys who are not getting what they want to become mean.

If you’ve got a kink or fetish that you want to see and you’ve discussed this with your cam model and she just isn’t comfortable with it, don’t push her. Especially if she’s said, “Absolutely, no.” Everyone has their hard limits and you need to respect that.

That doesn’t mean a cam model won’t ever bend a little and do something you like, especially if you’ve been with her awhile and are a good tipper, but just don’t expect it. And, I wish I didn’t have to say this, but don’t ask her to do anything illegal or goes against her morals.

Would you want someone asking you to do something that you find uncomfortable?

Conclusion: Being a Fanboy is Easy and Common Sense.

These rules probably sound simple and maybe even a little silly. I mean, I didn’t give you anything earth-shattering here. But honestly, the nicer you are, the more enjoyable your private cam shows are going to be.

And, truthfully, your favorite cam girls are going to be more apt to want to engage with you if you’re being a nice guy, making your private cam shows more fun for you both, thus making you one of their favorite fanboys.

Be patient, friendly, engaging, polite, and just a good guy and you’re going to get to that fanboy status you’re coveting.

Oral sex is amazing. Like, seriously, the act of penetrative sex is mostly always awesome, but for many (many) women, cunnilingus is the best and only way they can reach a mind-blowing orgasm. So, it is really kind of meh when you’re with someone that just can’t get the job done and that’s the only way you can “get there”.

That’s why today I want to touch on the subject of going down on her. If you can master this important sex skill, you’re going to have your lady friend, or friends, squirming, squealing, and begging for more in no time. And let’s face it, it is sure a fun thing to practice!

If you’ve never seen a vagina, you’ve never attempted to go down on a girl, or you’re just not sure what to do when you’re down there, this article will teach you how to properly go down on her so that she enjoys it.

7 Tips for Going Down on Her…The Right Way

To start doing oral sex on a woman the right way, you kind of need to understand what she is rocking below the belt.

I’m not going to provide a diagram here because there is nothing grosser and more boring than high school sex-ed taught by the gym teacher who is uncomfortably droning on. You can find diagrams online anywhere and they can help point out where the hotspots are on a lady’s bits.

If you are in a relationship, or you have a willing sex buddy, she can also show you where things are and how she likes them. Remember, though, that not every woman is going to be the same and what one likes, one might not enjoy too much.

The biggest key to doing anything sexual and making it fun is to keep the lines of communication open with them so that everyone has fun!

So, now that you know about her nooks and crannies, here are the seven tips for going down on her the right way.

#1: Keep Things Slow.

Sometimes sex is a quickie thing. You both can’t keep your hands off of each other and you’re just going to town, or you’re trying to fit it in before someone notices what you’re doing. In those cases, you’re probably not focusing on going down on her; it’s more of a “wham, bam, thank you ma’am.”

However, if you are focusing on oral pleasure, you need to remember that this is a marathon and not a sprint. So many times, when we’re excited, aroused, or nervous we start going in hyper-speed, but for this situation and for most women, this isn’t just going to work.

If you’re going down on her, slow it down, even slower than you think you need to be going (unless and until she tells you otherwise).

#2: Build Up the Sexual Anticipation.

For guys, it can be very difficult to keep “things” under control when the bedroom antics are getting hot and heavy. I mean picture it:

You’re excited.

You’re with a naked lady.

She’s touching you AND letting you touch her.

Then she’s making all those noises that just get your goods throbbing.

If you’re a gentleman, you want it to be ladies first, but damn it can be hard to hold yourself off when you just want to bust a nut. That may prompt you to just dive in tongue first and hope she gets off as quickly as possible.

Let me tell you, this is the absolute wrong thing to do.

When you’re going down on her, you want to be build up some anticipation. You want to tease her, caress her, touch, lick, kiss, and breathe erotically all over her, not just her kitty. Sex is about the build-up for us and the more you do to get us revved up, the more we’re going to be begging for you.

#3: Use Your Breath, But Don’t Darth Vader Her.

Ok, this one is going to need some clarification because I can just picture guys doing the old “Darth Vader” asthmatic panting on a lady’s parts and then getting mad because she thought it was creepy. And it is creepy, so don’t go all COPD on your lady.

Breathing is an often overlooked tool in the sexual arsenal and if done right, can heighten the mood. Exhale slowly, with your mouth wide open, using warm air to get her excited. Give her a slow and sensual lick, from the bottom of the vagina to the top and then switch to a pursed-lip, cool air tactic on the wet spot you’ve just created.

#4: Get That Tongue A’Circlin’.

Once your lady is feeling excited and you’ve gotten her ready for the main oral event, the worst thing you can now do is hit her straight on with the jackhammer tongue. Don’t pretend that you’re repeatedly hitting an elevator button to close the door before that creep from down the hall tries who never shuts up tries to get in with you.

Instead, use your tongue gently, circling around her love button, teasing her. Eventually, you can use your tongue flat, pushing against her clit. And remember, every woman is different, so if she likes you to get rough with her little bean right away, do what she likes.

#5: Don’t Always Stop When She Cums.

Again, this is personal preference, so talk to your lady first. But, if she’s down, after she orgasms her pelvic muscles are going to contract and radiate out from there to the rest of her body. This is why it is so pleasurable for women to have an orgasm.

You can heighten this experience by applying pressure to the length of her vulva or to the clitoral head (with caution, it may be tooooo sensitive at that point) either with your tongue, your flat palm, or even a sex toy.

#6: Do a Debriefing…Later.

Along with talking about what she likes before you both get busy, it’s also beneficial to discuss what she did or didn’t enjoy once the deed is done. There is nothing wrong with talking about sex, in fact, it’s the mature thing to do and the only way you’re going to improve is to get feedback.

Don’t get offended if you did something she didn’t enjoy, just work on it for next time!

#7: Do Your Homework on Your Downtime.

Homework? Whaaa?

Yep, when you’re not in the bedroom is one of the best times to work on your technique. You want a nice strong tongue that can keep going for her, and all ya’ll guys know that some women take a loooong time to cum. That means your tongue will be working overtime and it can get exhausting.

When you’ve got some free time and you’re not around people who might get really offended by your lewd movements, open your mouth and move that tongue up and down, left and right, and all around. Just like you should exercise your other muscles, you should exercise your tongue for more stamina.

Bonus Tip: Relax and Enjoy.

Sex shouldn’t be clinical, unless you’re into that sort of thing. So, while these tips will go a long way in improving your technique when going down on her, they won’t do a damn thing if you’re not relaxed and enjoying yourself. Just as it’s important to get her calm, relaxed, and ready, you need to do the same for you.

Now, practice your tongue movements and get yourself ready to blow her mind!

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For most of us, having sex of some type is something we can do on the fly. I mean, sure, there are people who have kids and busy schedules and need to “write-in” a sex session with their partner, but for the most part, it’s pretty easy to get busy at the drop of a hat.

If you’re someone who is considering going for a little something spicier, something new, then you might be considering a little bit of anal sex. Anal sex isn’t just the stuff of porno’s and college bro’s anymore; more and more women are beginning to enjoy this once-taboo bit of fun in the bedroom.

Unlike vaginal sex, though, anal sex can’t just be done at the spur of the moment unless you really want to make things uncomfortable and messy. If you’re considering getting a bit frisky at the back door, you’ll definitely want to consider these tips to prepare for anal sex.

Five Super Tips to Prepare for Anal Sex

Before you travel down this new highway of lovin’, you want to make sure that both partners are on board and understand what exactly it takes to make anal sex happen.

This is a totally different animal than vaginal or oral sex and requires prep work, including a discussion about it. Just “doing it” is not only going to piss off your partner, but you could also possibly hurt them.

Before you even think of any poking in the behind, you need to decide how it’s going to go down.

Will it be strictly penile penetration, or will you be trying fingers or toys?

Is there anything your partner absolutely does not want to do?

Are you ok with her limiting what goes down and are you willing to stop if she says so?

Do you have everything ready to go (like a lot of lube)?

Seriously, if you two can’t talk about butt things, you’re not ready for butt things, so keep that in mind.

And if she just does not want to do it, do not pressure her into it. That’s not fair and it’s going to cause problems for you that you just don’t need over something so minor.

So, what are the other tips to prepare for anal sex? Well, here you go!

#1: Start with a Finger or Rimming.

Before you even begin to poke other things in your or your girlfriends, bottom, there needs to be some experimentation.

Anything bigger than a finger is going to require much more prep work to keep things safe and clean, so it’s really best to start with a finger or two.

While you and your partner are getting busy, or she’s playing by herself, let a finger wander on back to the sphincter.

Yes, it’s going to be tight. I mean, typically this is an exit only. But just like a woman should masturbate to see what she likes and doesn’t like, playing with the bottom will let her know if she enjoys it or not.

You could also give rimming a try to see if that helps her relax. Rimming, also known as “tossing the salad” or analingus, is when your partner uses their tongue on the anal sphincter.

If it isn’t enjoyable with a finger or tongue, there is a good chance something else might not be her cup of tea either.

#2: Get Clean.

We’ve all heard the horror stories of someone making quite the mess during anal sex. While poo isn’t stored in the anal canal, it’s in the upper bowels, nobody wants there to be even the slightest chance that there could be fecal matter involved in sexy times.

(Unless that’s your thing, which in that case, have at it)

If it’s possible, a visit to the bathroom should be done 30-60 minutes prior to the main event. A nice, long, relaxing shower is also good.

Not just to make sure that any remnants of the bathroom visit are gone, but also to get her in the mood.

If you or your lady are really worried about poo, an enema is an option. It isn’t a necessity, but if you want a deeper clean, this is the way to go.

Enema kits are available just about everywhere and if you’re shy, order one.

A word of warning on the use of enemas. Frequent use can cause you some issues down the road and they shouldn’t be used often for sexual purposes.

Not only can they cause electrolyte imbalances, but they can damage the muscles back there that regulate normal bowel function.

#3: Stock Up on Lube.

If you’re preparing for anal sex, you absolutely have to use lube. Let me repeat it for the folks in the back who aren’t listening.

If you’re going to perform anal sex, you MUST use lube. Unlike the vagina, there is absolutely no self-lubrication back there at all. Get yourself some lube and get a lot of it.

This leads to the question, “What kind of lube should I get?”

Here are the lube rules, which will, of course, vary by your situation.

First, do not get any numbing lube or creams. Sure, they may work to stop pain in the moment, but if you’re doing anal sex properly, there shouldn’t be extreme amounts of pain anyway.

The biggest issue with these products is that they will prevent you from stopping if there is an issue and once they wear off, the pain and damage could be worse.

Secondly, if you’re using condoms, don’t use an oil-based lubricant. Oil-based lubes will break down the latex in condoms and if you’re trying to prevent STDs, especially HIV, you’re really putting yourself at risk.

Instead, opt for a water-based lube, which will be easier to clean up from yourself and the sheets and they are A-OK with toys and sexual protection.

Just remember, water-based lubes don’t last as long as oil-based, so have a butt-ton of it at your disposal. (Pun definitely intended).

Oh, and I wish I didn’t have to say this, but do not rely on spit as a lubricant. Porn has really skewed people’s thinking on sexual matters and trust me, a good old loogey is not a proper lube.

#4: Consider Starting with a Toy.

If she still isn’t totally ready to have a penis in her behind, but she’s kind of into what the rimming and self-play did for her, consider using a toy first.

Again, when preparing for anal sex, there are some things you have to be careful with when choosing a toy.

Unlike a vagina which has a built-in stopper (the cervix, for those not in the know), the anal canal has no such stopper.

If you choose a toy that has no flared end, you do risk having said toy being stuck up in the pipe. I don’t know about you, but I would be beyond pissed if I had to go to the hospital and explain that one!

Instead, choose something like a small butt plug or toy that has a flared end to it. You may have to experiment with toys that increase in size over a period of a few weeks, so keep that in mind too.

You can’t go from nothing ever crossing that threshold to a giant toy or penis in one night; trying to do so could result in tears, bleeding, pain, and a doctor’s visit.

#5: Keep on One Path.

Let’s say you’ve done all the prep work for anal sex and your lady is totally into it. You got your goods in, she’s feeling good, but it doesn’t get her the home run and she needs some regular vaginal penetration to orgasm.

Whatever you do, DO NOT USE THE SAME CONDOM (OR DIRTY DICK) IN HER VAGINA.

It doesn’t matter how clean she was prior to the two of you getting started, the rectum is a place full of bacteria. If you move from anal to vaginal, you’re putting her at-risk for UTI’s and other nasties that require some strong antibiotics. And if you two did it bareback, you’re actually at-risk for issues if any of that bacteria gets into your penile tip.

To keep everyone safe, use protection and remove it between holes or stick strictly with one hole only per sexy session.

Conclusion: Anal Sex Can Be Fun but Requires Prep Work.

Like anything that you want to be good at, anal sex requires some prep work. Otherwise, it just isn’t going to be enjoyable. And, be honest, don’t you want to have a good time having anal sex? That’s the only way it’ll happen a second time, that’s for sure.

So, before you venture on down to brown town, follow these five tips to prepare for anal sex. You can thank me after you orgasm like never before. You’re very welcome! Now, if you’re not up for all that, then hop on cam and chat with a model instead.

I want to confess one thing…I love giving blowjobs. Like, really love it. When I’m not making money on cam, I’m probably doing this – not joking. There is nothing sexier to me than being able to pleasure my man better than any other woman was ever able to do so.

I know, I know, not everyone enjoys giving oral sex. From having someone’s junk thrust into your face, which may or may not have a distinct scent, to him getting too pushy and attempting the obnoxious face-fuck that you never agreed to. We’ve all had bad bj experiences, but don’t let it stop you from giving head!

My friends always ask me why I love giving blowjobs so much. For me, there is absolutely nothing more empowering than having that control over a man. And for the guy, he gets the experience of sex without having to do all the work and you’re doing something he can’t do for himself, which is also amazing.

If you’re looking to improve your blowjob techniques and make it more enjoyable for the both of you, or you’re brand new to giving head and you want to be the bomb diggity at it from the get-go, consider these 7 tips for giving the best blowjobs of your life!

7 Tips for Giving the Best Blowjobs

Giving good head is an art. Anyone can plop some junk in their mouth and go through the motions, but to make it memorable and enjoyable for both of you, it takes some work. I mean, it is called a “job” after all!

However, this type of job is one of the best and definitely shouldn’t be drudgery. If you’re looking to give an excellent bj, consider these blowjob tips:

1. Be enthusiastic!

The number one rule for giving a blowjob is to have fun and act as if you actually want to be doing it. If you’re not enthusiastic about what you’re doing, your man is going to be able to tell and he’s not going to enjoy it either.

Now, let me say this especially loud for the people in the back of the room: Never, ever do something you don’t want to do and don’t do it with someone you’re not happy to be with, especially in the bedroom. I would never advocate doing something just to make another person happy.

However, if you’re down, and thinking of going down (see what I did there?), here is how you can show your guy you’re enthusiastic about gobbling his knob:

• Keep eye contact – Here is where you want to release your inner sex goddess and flap those big eyelashes at him after you’ve been looking at his unit. Don’t maintain unblinking eye contact, that’s just strange and creepy. Instead, make it seem like you can’t keep your eyes off of his junk and let him read through your eyes how much you want him.
• Ask him what he wants – Communication is key before and during sex. Ask him what type of bj’s he enjoys, stop while you’re pleasuring him and ask if it’s wet enough, or how he is enjoying it. Just do not ever ask if he’s “close.” If you have to ask, you’re not doing it right, anyway.
• Let him know how turned on you are – Men aren’t really any different than we are, and they get nervous about oral sex as well. Ease his nerves by complimenting him. Saying, “I love how you feel in my mouth” can go a long way.

2. Use your hands.

Oral sex isn’t just about your mouth. Using your hands can really help when your mouth and jaw are starting to get tired. An effective blowjob is a nice mix of wetness and suction along with your hands providing some pressure.

Try this once you’ve warmed up a bit:

• Wrap your hand around the shaft of his penis and then add your mouth.
• Put your mouth against your thumb and forefinger, like you’re kissing them.
• Move your hand and lips up and down his penis in one fluid motion.

You can also try mixing it up, moving your hand separately from your mouth, add in a wrist twist, and if he’s ok with it (and you asked beforehand), cup his balls gently with the other hand.

3. Use spit…lots and lots of spit.

Successful oral sex is wet and slippery. Nobody likes it dry; I mean, do you like when things are too dry down there?

The more spit you use, the more movement you’re going to have and the better it will feel for him. Don’t go too crazy and make it so you’re both covered in drool and your hands are slipping all over the place, but make sure things stay moist. And definitely keep some water on hand, you’re probably going to need it.

4. Use your tongue.

Your tongue is a great way to drive your guy crazy, especially if you start flicking on that little spot on the underside of his penis called the frenulum. They have a boatload of nerve endings in that one area and light touching, tongue flicking, and rubbing of your tongue up and down his shaft is not only porn-like, but it is also mind-blowing for them.

5. Keeps those lips pursed.

Try saying the word “purple” right now. See how your lips get pursed and your tongue drops down? That’s the position you want to stay in when you have a mouth full o’peenie. It makes your lips feel like perfect little pillows and combined with suction, makes your mouth an amazing place to rest his penis for a few minutes.

6. Give deep throating a try.

This will depend on the size of your man’s manhood and how experienced you are with doing blowjobs. Deep-throating is more of an advanced skill and if done improperly can result in (at best) you gagging, or (at worst) you barfing all over your partner’s crotch.

Men enjoy deep throating because, well it’s kind of slutty, makes them feel manly seeing their goods disappear completely into your mouth, and your throat is a tighter space. Men love putting that thing in tight spaces!

If you want to practice deep throating without throwing up on a guy, get yourself some popsicles and work through getting it deeper and deeper, all the while breathing through your nose. If after some practice you just can’t do it, don’t force the issue. Don’t ever choke yourself on a penis, it’s totally not worth it.

7. Consider butt play.

This is something you would have ideally discussed before you’re going to town on his penis. Some men love, love, LOVE anal play while they’re being pleasured, and some won’t have you anywhere near the backdoor with a finger.

If your guy is into trying it out, start by gently touching his perineum (the taint for all you uncouth folks) and working up to a finger in the old bum. The prostate is in that area and is very sensitive (a male G-spot), making some men cum even harder when it is stimulated.

If you really want to blow his mind, have your mouth on the head of his penis, one hand working the shaft, the other cupping and gently massaging his balls while your pointer finger on that hand works his perineum and slips into his bottom.

Trust me, if he’s into butt play, he’s going to be putty in your hands if you can master this move.

Conclusion: Blowjobs can and should be fun!

Oral sex is amazing, especially when it is done well. If you want to please and pleasure your man like he’s never been pleasured before, consider these best blowjob tips to making his head spin. And when you’re done, hold your head high and take pride in the fact that you’re the BJ Queen! Oh, don’t forget to put this skill on your webcam profile. The boys will go nuts for it!

Cam shows have exploded in popularity and everyone and their sister has started getting into the cam show world. With the number of cam shows that occur every day and the oversaturation of girls in the cam show market, it can be difficult to differentiate yourself from every other pretty, sexy woman out there.

There are many ways to make your cam shows more exciting and one of the top ways to make your shows memorable and to draw in customers who are into things a little sexier is to squirt during a show.

If you’re not familiar with what squirting is, you’re definitely not alone. There are many people who have never heard of squirting or they don’t believe that it is possible. But, trust me, squirting is totally real and can really get your customers excited if you can pull it off during a show.

If you’re interested in learning about squirting and how to make a woman squirt, this is your go-to guide.

What Exactly Is Squirting (A How To Guide)

Once considered a rare, fringe thing, squirting is now something a little more mainstream, and something that turns men on like you wouldn’t believe!

So, what exactly is squirting? Squirting refers to the expulsion of fluid from a woman’s urethra when she is having an intense, mind-blowing orgasm that is due to G-spot stimulation. Science doesn’t really understand much about squirting, they mostly study male sexual stuff, so they don’t know what the thin, milky fluid is that comes out. Some say its urine, some say its fluid from the Skene’s glands, the female equivalent of the prostate gland.

The bottom line is this: Nobody cares what the fluid is. It’s just something sexy that women can do and if you can, you’re sure to not only turn on your sex partner(s) but also increase the tips you earn during your cam shows.

The biggest question most women have is if they can squirt. And the answer is “Absolutely!” All women have the capability to squirt, it just takes a little prep work and some time.

If you’ve never squirted before and you’re looking to improve your cam shows, here are the best steps to make yourself, or any woman, squirt.

Simple Steps To Making Any Woman Squirt

These are the exact steps you need to take in order to make your girlfriend, wife or any woman you know squirt.

Step #1: Get Prepared

Squirting is a skill and just like any other skill, it takes some prep work to make it happen. Whether you’re going to attempt to squirt on camera on your own, or you’re going to have a partner to help, you need to make sure you do a few things to get ready.

First, get your mind clear and ready for some sexy times. A mind that is occupied with something else just isn’t going to cooperate. Play some sexy music, have a nice, relaxing bath, and burn some incense or scented candles to set the mood.

Oh, and please, go to the bathroom before you begin playing. A full bladder isn’t going to help in aiding relaxation and if you’re empty and you do actually squirt, you can be assured it isn’t urine like some people claim.

Once the mood is set, its time to really warm her, or yourself, up. Foreplay is essential for squirting and you have to do what works for you; everyone will be different. If you’re with a partner, consider a massage, heavy kissing, dirty talk, and/or focusing on erogenous zones.

If you’re attempting to squirt alone, touch yourself how you enjoy it, use toys to tease yourself and watch or read whatever porn typically gets you going.

Step #2: Get Into A Comfortable Position

It is extremely important that you, or your partner, are completely relaxed, both physically and mentally. The heavier the foreplay, the more relaxed you will be. Once your head is ready, now you want to get yourself into the correct position.

To prepare to squirt, lay down somewhere comfortable. Whether it’s a bed, rug, or couch, make sure it’s comfortable, sensual, and provides a good view for your show.

Next, put your bottom on a pillow. A little elevation will provide better access to your G-Spot and clitoris at the same time. Because you’re going to be ejaculating, you are probably going to want to have a towel down as well, or at least nearby, to prevent too much of a mess.

Step #3: Have Lube Ready

Lube is absolutely essential in getting a woman to squirt. You can choose to use whatever type of lube you like, just remember that oil-based lubes will deteriorate latex condoms and can damage sex toys.

The key is to make sure everything is wet; the clit, vulva, and inside the vagina, as well as the toys and fingers being used to stimulate yourself. Really the wetter, the better when it comes to squirting.

Step #4: Find That G-Spot

Finding the G-Spot isn’t difficult if you know what you’re looking for and you know how to find it.

Here’s how:

1. Stimulate the clitoris for a few minutes, it really gets things “going”.
2. Insert the middle finger into the vagina (palm facing up). You don’t need more than one finger, it will just make things too crowded.
3. About two inches deep, begin rubbing the upper vaginal wall in a “come here” motion.

After a few minutes of stimulation, the G-Spot should become more noticeable. It will feel spongy, wrinkled, and almond-shaped and be located about two knuckles deep. Approximately 10-15 minutes of stimulation should cause the G-Spot to balloon up and the frontal wall should swell.

At this point, there will be a strong urge to urinate, and as long as your bladder was emptied, it isn’t actually urine, it’s ejaculate. Now is the time to let loose and let those juices flow!

What If It Doesn’t Happen?

Unfortunately, squirting isn’t always the easiest thing to do and it won’t always happen the first, or first few times you attempt it. If it doesn’t work out initially, don’t fret. It can happen.

Experimenting with different finger movements can usually do the trick. Tapping on the G-Spot, applying more pressure, or stimulating the clitoris at the same time as stimulating the G-Spot can all increase arousal and the chances for squirting.

There are also specialized G-Spot stimulating toys that focus on the intended area and can give your or your partner’s hands a break. Consider the Pure Wand by NJoy or the Gigi 2 by Lelo.

Also, make sure you’re hydrated. Yes, just like you should drink water for your overall well-being, squirting requires adequate hydration to occur. Get your minimum eight cups of water a day, and on the day you want to attempt squirting, drink a little more a few hours before the show.

And finally, please make sure that you relax. Squirting is all about what’s going on in the brain and the more uptight you are, the less likely it is that you’ll squirt. So, before you give up, make sure that you are totally and completely in the zone.

Instructional Video

If you’re not understanding everything about female cum and squirting, then you need to watch this video. It’s perhaps the best video on this subject that I’ve found to date. These tips can help you better understand what I’m talking about for sure.

Conclusion: Squirting Isn’t Always Easy, But Def Doable.

I hate to burst the bubble, but not every woman is going to be able to squirt. However, it is possible with some time and practice. And if you can accomplish this, I promise you that your cam show tips will only increase, which is exactly what all cam girls want! Hey, if you’re a consumer and you’re reading this, then you need to know that this page lists out all the cam sites you need.

I’ve been trying to cover as many topics as possible lately and one that recently came to mind was – how cam sites work. Oddly enough, I’ve never thought of covering this topic in detail but what’s a better time than now? This update is for both cam girls and cam site users. Basically, anyone interested in learning how this stuff works. I’ve covered it all today. Now, if you’re a cam girl looking to just take action and join a site that pays, then you might want to give this a read here. 🙂 It’s the site that I’ve been using as my main source of income these days. Now back to the topic at hand…

How Do Webcam Sites Really Work?

Online sex work takes on many forms. While free porn sites are, and always will be, among the most popular way to get your jollies, cam girl websites are a very close second. However, not everyone knows what exactly happens on cam sites and many people think it is strictly just women rubbing one off in front of guys for money.

Yes, there is definitely sexual activity happening on cam shows. I mean, who would want to watch them otherwise? But just because a customer expects a certain act doesn’t mean it’s going to happen.

So, what exactly is a cam girl website? And what goes on on these types of shows? If you’re new to camming and curious about the ins and outs of how cam girl websites work, this article is definitely for you.

What Are Cam Sites?

Cam sites are websites that host both cam models and their customers. Unlike traditional porn sites, cam sites are interactive and live. Cam chat rooms will present a video feed of the model as she does whatever it is she is comfortable with, as well as a chat feature where the model can interact with her viewers.

Viewers are capable of offering up suggestions as to what they’d like to see, but each model has the right to either do what they want or decline if she isn’t feeling comfortable with what they are asking of her. It is highly recommended that as a cam model you make it very clear in your cam site bio what you will and will not do. This keeps everyone from getting frustrated, and trust me, some of the customers you’re going to get will get nasty if they think you’re wasting their money.

You should also know that you’re going to have trolls that show up just to make your life difficult. It’s the nature of the internet. Be prepared to toss out anyone that is giving you a hard time and make sure you block them so that they don’t keep returning.

What Can You Stream On Webcam Sites?

There are probably hundreds of camming sites out there and each one has its own content. You should definitely check out whatever site you’re planning on using to see what they do and do not allow in a cam show before you start broadcasting so you don’t get banned and/or lose any money that is owed to you.

Typically, cam sites will allow dirty talk and self-sexual acts such as masturbation and using toys. Other sites will allow full-on sexual encounters on-screen, however, those sites require a few hoops that you’ll have to jump through to make that happen. See, a site doesn’t want to get busted for having underage participants or someone that never consented to be included in a show, it is illegal.

So, if you plan on having sex on camera with another person, read all the fine print of your chosen site, submit all the proper paperwork, and make sure everyone involved has consented to being in a show and is of legal age.

How Do These Work?

Cam sites are pretty much relationship-based. The model will host her chat room on a cam site with the goal of connecting with their customers so they can bring in the money, usually in the form of tips. Most cam sites don’t charge to host these chat rooms, but they do get their cut by taking a cut of the earnings a model makes.

Payments for cam model work are in the form of “tips.” A customer that enjoys these public shows will then tip the model for her time. If a customer upgrades to a private chat session, they will usually be paying by the minute.

There is no set amount of money a cam model can earn for her shows, either public or private. It really comes down to the following she has, what she does in her shows, and how much engagement she has with these fans outside of shows. Not everything involving cam shows is sexual, remember, and a good personality with a strong connection to her fans can really increase the amount of money a cam model makes.

Are There Any Negatives To Camming?

Being a cam model can be a great way to make extra money and if you’re really good at it, you can even make a living for a chunk of time. However, it isn’t all sunshine and rainbows.

It does take work to get your fanbase growing. This isn’t a passive job, you have to get out there, online mostly, and get yourself recognized. The cam model world is so oversaturated, you need to differentiate yourself from everyone else. You may have to do some things for free, consider doing things in your shows others aren’t doing, interact with people as if you’re totally into them, and spend some money on yourself, your set-up, and equipment up-front.

Another negative is that you may have to deal with less desirables. The fact is, harassment is a huge issue in camming with trolls (on the forums too) and obsessed fans doing everything in their ability to make your day more difficult, including doxing. Doxing is when someone tries to “out” you and your personal/private information online. It is a sad fact, but there are viewers that don’t see cam models as human, but almost like robots that “owe” them whatever they want because they’re being paid.

You will also have to watch out for your paid content being stolen and posted to free sites without your permission and without you being compensated. This is a huge problem in the live porn world and is very difficult to stop.

Conclusion

Camming is often dismissed as a joke but can actually be a great career for a hustling cam model willing to put in the time it takes to build your brand. Cam sites are numerous, with each having its own positives and negatives for the cam models, but with a little research, you can find the right site for you and the type of shows you intend to put on.

Read the information provided by your chosen site, get comfortable with how you are paid, perfect your shows, and within no time you should be bringing in the money!